A Much Needed Break

I have decided to take a break from blogging right now. Too many hurtful and judgemental comments have been made for my taste. Since this is where I share my story (be whatever that it be) I want to step back, take a breath, and decide my next action.

In the meantime . . . Here are a few thought to the not so nice people out there:

Just because someone is struggling with a trial and it seems insurmountable to them does not mean that as an outsider it is should be made petty or small. Everyone has their own struggle and everyone deals with it in their own way. For me, I am not a person who puts on a fake smile and says, "Everything is great," when it clearly is not. If I am not happy, you know it. If I am, you know it. I am, who I am. And my husband and son love me in spite of it and because of it.

So in the future, if you find something not to your liking here or something you do not agree with, so be it. Please keep it to yourself. This is my story and my story alone. Consequently, telling me how I should or should not feel or how I should or should not handle things is really not appropriate or appreciated. (You know that whole "walk a mile in my shoes . . ." )

The only reason why I have shared my story is that many people in this situation feel so very alone and consistently judged by others who don't "get it." No, it is not cancer, world crisis, poverty, etc. However, the pain is very real and is pretty significant to those who are dealing with it. I am hoping to educate others so that they can stop being so insensitive. However, Infertility is something that has had an extreme impact on me and my family. In fact, 1 in 8 couples deal with infertility. Consequently, there may be several people in your life who are dealing with this and are too scared to talk about it due to comments such as "just get over it already", "just be happy you have one", "look at all the free time you have", "look how much money you save", etc. (Yep, have heard all of these.) And when you belong to a faith that consistently drills in your head the importance of "multiplying and replenishing", it makes it tough to handle when, for whatever reason, you are not able to.

Like I said in a previous post, rather than give a lecture especially if you have never dealt with this, wouldn't a better choice be "how can I support you in this" or just a simple "thinking of you" would suffice. Support and compassion goes much further and hurts way less.

So please forgive this rant. As I have said before, time will heal my wounds, but this is still a pretty raw issue for me and I need time. Now I will go back into my cave and isolate myself to prevent any further rantings or "disagreeable postings."